There tons of books and articles that talk about how a woman can "find" a man. Do you really think that the use of rules or any other special tactics are the best things to place a woman on the path towards marriage? Please remember that bible says that "He who finds a wife, finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord" (NIV) Proverbs 18:22. For all of the ladies that read this post, it is important to understand that God does not intend for you to go out and find a husband. He intends for your future husband to go and find you.
God needs to prepare all of us for marriage (men and women). Often times we remain unmarried, because we are not ready in God's eyes.
To my sisters in Christ…if you truly want a Christian man in your life, there are some things I think you should know. I'm talking about a true authentic Christian man. I'm referring to a man that is not perfect, but he loves God deeply. I'm referring to a man that will treat you like queen and lead your family as he follows Christ.
I am going to take a little liberty and speak for authentic Christian men around world. If you are a single female, here is what you should know about some of the things that go on in the mind of authentic Christian men as it relates to you. (If you are a married woman, some of these things may help you out too)
1. We love God even though we may not always show it the same manner that you do.
2. We are not afraid of marriage.
3. We are not perfect just because we love God. Learn to deal with our imperfections. We learn to deal with yours.
4. A positive and happy woman will always be more attractive than a negative and angry one.
5. What goes on between us should stay between us. Your girlfriend and/or family don't need to know everything.
6. Gossip is unattractive.
7. Selfishness is really unattractive.
8. Less clothing does not make you more attractive. We want to see your breasts, but not until we put a ring on your finger.
9. Please go easy on the makeup or learn to apply it properly. We are looking to marry a woman not a clown.
10. Don't be quick to be jealous of our relationships with our mothers. How we treat her will be a good indication of how we will treat you.
11. Although SOME of us are prophets, NONE of us have the ability to read minds. If something is on your mind please say so. Clues are for Sherlock Holmes.
12. Authentic Christian men genuinely like to help other people. That does not me we care any less about you.
13. We are not like the other people who have hurt you in the past.
14. We aren't as obsessed with your weight as your are.
15. If we comment about exercise or eating habits it is because we care about your health. We want you to be around to spend time with us.
16. The fact that you have children is not stopping us from getting to know you.
17. Whatever we like before marriage (food, sports, video games, etc), we will continue to like after marriage. 18. There are constructive ways to ask us to do things, to informs us and to correct us. Nagging is not one of those ways.
So, what do you think about the list? Is there anything else that should be added?
