Should Christians Date Non-Christians?

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Let me start out by saying that I am married and I haven’t been single (without a wife or girlfriend) for a long time. In all honesty, I don’t have any idea how tough or easy the dating landscape is for the single Christian. I hear people say all of the time that the dating options are limited. That’s probably an argument for another post.

Although options may be slim, I highly recommend that Christians should not date non-Christians. I’m not talking about going out for coffee or dinner. I’m talking about engaging in a romantic relationship. Here are a couple of things to consider:

Definition of A Christian
Make sure that you and the person you are dating have similar definitions of what a Christian is. If someone says “I am a Christian” that may not be the same as saying “I have a relationship with Christ.” Which one is more important to you?

What Does the Bible Say
Check out 2 Corinthians 6:14.

Influence
Whether we realize it or not, we are influenced by the people we spend time with the most. Who do you want to influence you? Yes, you could influence them, but they will definitely have some sort of influence on you.

You Can Change Him/Her
You can’t change the person. Only God can do that. If God intends to work a person’s heart, allow him to do the work before you begin dating the person.

Who Is 1st In Your Life?
As a believer, God is #1 in your life. A non-Christian may have a very hard time trying to understand that. They may not appreciate you placing God before them.

Let’s Tie It All Together
You may meet a really nice person who treats people well, looks nice and has a great job. In the grand scheme of things, all of that is not important. Sure, they may “believe in God.” However, I’m here to tell you that is not good enough. There is a difference between believing in God and having a life that is focused on and directed by God.

There are plenty of nice people out there, but if they do not believe what you believe, you are wasting your time as far as a romantic relationship is concerned. We all probably know one or two couples that started dating while one person was saved and the other was not. While dating, the unsaved person gave their life to Christ, now they are living happily ever after.

For every story like this there are dozens more that describe the complete opposite. There ends up being a lot of friction and heartache in the relationship. One person usually ends up not getting treated like they should. Sure, the couple may end up staying together, but they never realize the complete happiness that God intended for them to have.

If God wants to use you to draw the person closer to Him, He will give you strategies that DO NOT involve the two of you getting romantically involved. Think about it. Every relationship has those tough moments. When those moments arise do you want to be with someone who is led by God, or someone that is led by his/her own thoughts and emotions?

Please share your thoughts and experiences about Christians dating non-Christians.

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  • http://howgreatismygod.blogspot.com/ Skipper

    I’m a big believer in when choosing someone to date, it should have the “possibly forever” tag on it. I don’t believe in dating someone you don’t hope to marry. Being romantically involved with many people isn’t the way it should be.

    I have never seen relationships between non-christians and christians be successful.
    My cousin dated then married a non-christian – she is no divorced, single mum, miserable and spent years away from Christ.
    My friend dated a muslim man and married him…. she no longer goes to church and she does the “non-christian” scenes.
    My grandmother married a non-christian man. He too believed in God and accompanied her to church – but had no relationship with Christ. He abused her, treated her terribly and they are now seperated.
    A friend of the family married a non-christian and they fight and are always at odds, because she bases her decisions and life on Christ and he doesn’t. They can’t be truly one because they believe such different things!
    My brother was a non-believer, and his Christian girlfriend couldn’t be with him anymore because his beliefs offended hers so greatly, how could she build something permanent with someone who believed in evolution, that God didn’t exist, hell didn’t exist etc?? There was ALOT of heartache on both sides during that time.

    When looking for a partner in life, it’s good to build on a solid foundation – which would be your faith in Jesus Christ. You can pray together, learn together, grow together – how does that work if the partner doesn’t believe what you believe?? Fish can’t mate with birds – it just doesn’t work.
    Then what about children?? How do you raise them? Christian or not?

    There are so many things to consider.

  • Kermit132w23

    It seems to be pretty clear to me that Christians should not date other Christians. Why would God approve of one of his children being romantically connected to a person who rejects him. If our close friends should only be Christians, it seems to be pretty obvious that our girlfriend or boyfriend should be as well. As Christians we have to take note of our testimony so God can use us to lead others to Christ. It is bad on our testimony when we, as believers, date those who are non-believers (the unsaved). By only dating other Christians, we can grow spiritually with that person. This also shows the world that we are apart. Consider this: If a person cannot choose to give their heart to Jesus Christ, the one true God, how can they ever truly love you?

  • Kermit132w23

    It seems to be pretty clear to me that Christians should not date other Christians. Why would God approve of one of his children being romantically connected to a person who rejects him. If our close friends should only be Christians, it seems to be pretty obvious that our girlfriend or boyfriend should be as well. As Christians we have to take note of our testimony so God can use us to lead others to Christ. It is bad on our testimony when we, as believers, date those who are non-believers (the unsaved). By only dating other Christians, we can grow spiritually with that person. This also shows the world that we are apart. Consider this: If a person cannot choose to give their heart to Jesus Christ, the one true God, how can they ever truly love you?

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